Disappointment

Have you ever noticed that in fairy tales that sometimes the main character has to go through some disappointment before he/she settles into the amazing life they've always wanted? Well, in the story about finally getting into a house we'll own, we have hit that place of disappointment. This isn't even our first time hitting that place, but we see our castle, we feel the good life changes on the horizon, and we can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

We really knew that the odds were that we weren't going to close on our house on March 18th, but a couple can dream, hope, pray, and expect it right? We did all those things. We dreamed big, we hoped, we prayed hard, we expected it and lived like it was going to happen. When it's all said and done, the owner of the house hasn't held up his end of the contract. He hasn't fixed the things he signed, saying he would. So we're two days away and yesterday he asked for an extension.

Little Mister's response to the Extension...

I've learned that when we choose to be lazy or procrastinate about something, we tend to use really lame excuses. Sometimes the excuses we give don't really excuse us from responsibility. The cyst on my ear hurts, I have a pimple, my shoulder is sore.... they're kind of lame excuses when you realize that the person has had 6+ weeks to complete this process. Everyone on our end (realtor, bank, ourselves) are all frustrated and extremely disappointed. I'm specifically frustrated with the fact that this guys' laziness has cost me extra money NEEDLESSLY.

So what do I learn from this situation? What's the moral of the story?

You know when Jesus was saying, Let your yes be yes and your no be no? He was talking about when you say yes to something, you do what you committed to. When you say no to something, you commit to that as well. Don't make yourself out to be a liar. It makes me really examine my own life and my own speech. I'd love to be at a place where when I say no to something, I stick with it until people realize that those two words have tremendous value, that they can count on it. I don't want someone to wear down my no until it became a yes. I also don't want to be someone who says yes constantly, but backs out all the time. That's called a flake. Being flaky is really frustrating to the people who are counting on you.

So the moral of the story, summed up, is commit to something and stick with it!